During this break, I think my emotions are pretty balanced and healthy. In my own opinion, the definition of emotional healthy is when a person have the ability to manage their feelings and know why they feel that way. For example, in this break, sometimes I have the notion thinking that "I am wasting the break for nothing and I should have done something else", and I end up just sitting there and feeling down. I think this state of emotion is still healthy, because I am able to think through it, and figure it out myself by knowing why I felt that way. More importantly, this state of thinking did not last very long or result as a depression. I am able to manage my feelings and get back on track to my daily basis.
In this whole week of break, the notion that I mentioned above comes pretty often. In 7 days, there are 4 days I felt that way. At very beginning, right after the break, my emotions were very healthy because I feel very restful and comfortable, because it has been a long time that we do not have a long break. Also is a time that I can put school aside and start doing something that I really wanted to do. I am able to catch back my sleep and just rest at home. But right after the weekend, when Monday starts, I felt a bit empty inside because my habit or daily routine has changed. It is like a sudden twist that I have to plan for something else. So I just decided to make a plan, like go online and look up for some college things and get rid of some homework to avoid the feeling of waste time. Out of my expectation, there was a fire next to my apartment building for the first time in my life and it broke the Internet and my home phones. Thus, I end up sitting at home and start doing some house cleaning at home and watch TV since it is a rainy day, too. Since my plans got ruin, it affects my emotions and it caused me to have the feeling of emptiness. Things aren't going the way I expected and therefore I am upset becasue it is not better than the fantasy. By knowing why I felt certain way, I am able to pull myself back to my regular state of feelings and start planning for something else to do to avoid thinking that way, because by thinking that way, I don't get anything out of it but just sitting and thinking, getting stuck. Doing some actions like going out to take photos or helping my cousin on the magazine or reading my friends exhibition helps me to keep my emotions healthy because I am using my time efficiently and I won't make my mind think too much pointless things that get myself stuck at some point. Thinking to the positive way helps me a lot because it helps me to see things in different angles and knowing that it is not just the only choice. I have many choices to choose from.
I think if a person is constantly happy, it could be healthy and unhealthy depending on the situations. If the person lost a family member and he/she still feels happy instead of grief, I think it is emotionally unhealthy. If a person is constantly happy because he got a good grade or won a lottery, I think it is healthy. But in the long term, if a person constantly have the same emotions and did not experience other emotions, I think this is unhealthy. Because I don't think a person can only have one emotion "happy" throughout their life. I think he/she must have more words to describe his/her emotions like what we discussed previous in class. Therefore, I think to determine a person's emotions are mostly based on the situations and reasons behind it. A lot of people think feeling sad or depress is emotionally unhealthy because it is negative, but if the person is sad for a reason or fit that situation, it is healthy.
We have discussed some therapies in class to help people on emotions, and I think existential psychology really helps in my case. Because when a person does not feel right or their emotions are unhealthy, this theraphy helps them to look forward instead of foucsing on their past. However, I think every theraphy is based on the situations. The existential therapy helps me a lot because I know why I feel that way as the reason, so I am able to fix it by asking myself how to change this as a way to make myself to look forward. Since I am looking forward to my future, and mostly igonored my unhappy past, it helps myself to know why I am living and what is the reason that motivates me to live. By knowing the reasons that I exist, I think the person's emotions will be pretty balanced and they won't think pessimistically becasuse they will take responsibilty of every choice they make and they will not avoid the problems that they meet in life. They will just live for their goals and keep move on instead of getting stuck on emotion problems becasue of their situations.
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