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Bao Lin's blog for 2008-2009.
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In my Chinese culture family, usually is the women's duty to cook and to do the shopping. The overall process of cooking a dinner or lunch has nothing to do with men. It does not have to do with the gender, but usually the kitchen belongs to the females in the family. A regular family dinner often cooked by the housewives, and usually the other females would help in the kitchen, too. A dinner would take about an hour or two, depending on the numbers of family. When I was in China, if there are only me, my mom, brother and sister, sometimes my dad, the dinner would take about an hour for my mom to cook.
Also we would have less food (around 3 dish, soup, white rice). But during the weekend or vacations, when we go to grandma’s house to eat, usually there would be 10 or more people in the family. So the dinner would take 2 hours to cook and everybody would sit around the table and eat. Usually only the adults or young adults are allow to sit on the table to eat. (The age matters in my family, the older ones get more respect and get to sit on the width of the table and the other adults sit on the length). The kids have to sit on a separate table to eat with smaller dishes of the same food. We do have the television on, but usually the adults are talking and the kids are watching TV or playing while eating. The manner is very important too, we have to wait for everybody to gather around the table, then we are allow to pick up our chopsticks.
The women are the ones who are responsible for everybody’s food. Especially for my grandfather, he never gets up and serves himself. My grandma is the one who usually serve him and help him to get rice or soup. Soup is one of the most important things that most Chinese family values. The soup is not from the cans, but from a lot of the ingredients. Usually there is one type of meat; it could be chicken, pork, and duck, (sometimes snakes and a type of turtle) with some other Chinese medicine herbs.
The more expensive ones would be abalone and ginseng or shark fin. The other foods on the table would be usually 7 to 8 dishes within mostly pork, beef, fish, shrimp, goose, duck, chicken, (*frog*) and vegetables. Sometimes there would be steam egg, fried fish or steam fish. Chinese food do not values seasoning, but only oil, salt, soy sauce, sugar. The heavier ones would be spicy peppers, some type of liquor, or vinegar.
In a very traditional family, sodas or juice are not allow in a family, and we are only allow to drink soup because it takes more than an hour to decoct. I think the Chinese culture believe that from drinking soups that decoct for a long time, with extracting the flavor from pork and other medicine herbs is healthy for our body. Also every night the proportion of eating vegetable is more than meat. Unless there is a holiday, we would make special foods with flours and other food. Or else, everyday the food is pretty much make with the similar ingredients.
Most of the food in my refrigerator are vegetables and fruits. The others are ginger, garlic, ketchup, mustard, butter, milk, condensed milk, egg, ham, and some other condiments.There are also some Chinese herbs and ingredients that my mom use for soups. I think my list of food has to do with my diet and I think they shows whether what I am eating is healthy or not for me and my family. I don't really see my relationship with food regardless of the fact that I eat them everyday. The fact that I realized there are a lot of plastic boxes with left overs from dinner, it really shows that my family waste food because we cook more than the amount we can eat. Also once the food are in the fridge, nobody will really goes back to the fridge and eat them. "Existential belief suggests that it is possible for people to face the anxieties of life head-on and embrace the human condition of aloneness, to revel in the freedom to choose and take full responsibility for their choices. They courageously take the helm of their lives and steer in whatever direction they choose; they have the courage to be. One does not need to arrest feelings of meaninglessness, but can choose new meanings for their lives. By building, by loving, and by creating one is able to live life as one's own adventure. One can accept one's own mortality and overcome fear of death. "
From doing the research on Existential Psychology, I think I believe in what their view points in human beings and minds. Basically, the existential therapy's view point on human mind is that all human beings are alone in their own world and we all are trying to find the connection between each other as the meaning to live. However, we are unable to depend on the others for "validation". Therefore, we come to believe that we are fundamentally alone when we came to the world, and our validation must come within and not from the others. I think by helping people to realize this, people will begin to be more independent and not relying on luck or destiny. In addition to that, we would be more responsible for who we are and making good choices and not blaming the others because we take controls of our own lives. According to Sartre, he believes that people who think that making choices is such a burden and pretend there are no choices are not taking responsibility of their own lives, as he called living in Bad Faith. "He believed it was nearly impossible to live without such self deception."
Another interesting thing about this strategy is that the existential thinkers are trying to avoid putting clients/patients into categories. Therefore, they analyze people based on experiences and creating four world. The physical dimension (natural world), social dimension (public world), psychological dimension (personal world), and spiritual dimension (ideal world). I think these categories are pretty much well covered the whole, because according to these worlds, they shaped pour attitude towards our life experiences.